“you have to find that place that brings out the human in you.the soul in you. the love in you.” – r.m. drake

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I hope you have all have survived back to school and are looking forward to the long Labor Day weekend. I thought it was finally time to share with you what Sunny Solitude actually is.

Sunny Solitude was started with the hope of sharing all the caregiving, clean living and self care tips and tricks I have learned over the years … mostly through trial and error. I want to save people time, money and the heartache of having to figure out many of the things that we had to figure out the hard way. I want to share what kept us safe and me sane with all the caregivers that are still struggling. 

I really want to Sunny Solitude to a place where anyone can come and search and find information on anything from clean beauty and organic food to Ozone therapy and Hyperbaric chambers and everything in between. 

I know I have a different belief system and view on staying healthy than many other people and I am excited to share those “odd, weird” things with you. (ex – I don’t own or use a microwave).

I have 3 exciting classes coming up and can’t wait to pass along what I have learn. The first will be Reiki Level 1, then Essential Oils to use in the hospital and finally in November End-Of-Life death doula class. I feel so lucky that these classes are available to me and I am getting the opportunity to participate in them. 

This blog is a labor of love. My passion is clean living and all that that encompasses. Whether it is when we are healthy and thriving, sick and trying to heal or at the end of our lives. I believe there is wealth in knowledge and am so happy to share what I have learned and will continue to learn with you all. 

Again – thank you all for your continued support and love. If there are any topics you would like me to cover or anything specific you have questions about, let me know!  

– xoxo Victoria

“I’ll rise up Rise like the day I’ll rise up In spite of the ache I will rise a thousands times again And we’ll rise up” – Cassandra Monique Batie / Jennifer Decilveo

52696073_617330125394757_2408889075760103424_oBefore Duane passed he said to me “ALS is NOT your cause, BUT you have to help people. There is no cure, don’t fight for that, but when people come to you, you help them”.

I have struggled with this for so long. What did he mean? Why did he say that? Why did he put that pressure on me? I have tried to help people, mostly people associated with ALS (as life would have it), people that have been placed in my path, younger people fighting ALS, younger people caring for those with ALS, younger widows after ALS. I sometimes feel I’m surrounded by ALS. 

I work in a hospital. I help people daily. 12 hours a day I help people and come home exhausted both mentally and physically. People that I sometimes feel don’t deserve help or sympathy, people that caused their own and other’s injuries because of their choices (now I understand what Duane was feeling those days he came home from the Fire Department feeling defeated). But I get up and help, not because Duane told me too, but because it is now ingrained in my being. 

This year I have seen friends pass away and have had other friends be diagnosed with terminal illnesses (ALS is a beast – its amazing to me the people it attacks). Watching this happen has “forced my hand”. Sunny Solitude will now be a wellness, self care,  caregiving, death coaching, vigil sitting place. Ask me your questions. Tell me how I can help. What do you  want to know. What questions do you have? Life? Death? Ask me anything. 

I am lucky. I have had time to process and learn. So many people are not afforded this luxury. I have a few interesting classes coming up and cam’t wait to share this with you. 

– xoxo Victoria

“Here’s to whatever puts a smile on your face Whatever makes you happy” – Brandy Lynn Clark / Lori McKenna

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(That’s me and my dad wearing matching our beer belts at the Reno Rib Cook-Off)

Tonight I was sitting in the lobby at hot yoga, chatting with the instructor, waiting for class to start. During a lull in the conversation a guy, in his mid 30’s (I’m guessing) looked at her and said, “What do you do for a living? This can’t be it”. Those of you who know me, know what my face looked like when I heard this. My head snapped around so fast I’ll be massaging out the whiplash for a week. She looked down and started talking and explaining that she was a substitute teacher as well as a yoga instructor. As she stammered her words and explained her choices, he lost interest and turned away. 

This bothered me more than I can explain, I have been on the receiving end of this question for the last 20 years. I thought about it all through class and when class ended, after a few minutes in shavasana, I grabbed my mat and beelined out of there. 

I found her, I looked at her and said, “That guy earlier” she immediately looked down and said, “I know, I just …”. I grabbed her hand and said “You can do what ever you want. I doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks or says.” I went on to tell her something my dad had said to me many, many years ago when I dropped out of college and walked away from a swimming scholarship. He had to come pick me up and bring me home. “As long as you can put a roof over your head and food on your table it doesn’t matter what you do, AS LONG AS YOU ARE HAPPY! I have always lived that way. I have had an amazing life and I have been so lucky. I have done what I wanted and I love my life.”

Yes, there have been hard times and heartache but I have had and do have the most wonderful life. I’ve been stuntwoman in live shows and movies, been a model in print ads and commercials, had a juicing business and a talent agency. I’ve been a bartender, a caregiver, a server and a stay at home dog mom. I am currently a NA in a hospital and I have no idea what will be next. As long as I’m happy who cares. No one else has to wake up to my life everyday. No one else pays my bills, cooks my food or is responsible for my happiness. 

In the last few years my dad’s advice has taken on a new meaning for me. It means more now. After watching Duane, and so many others, get sick and pass away I realize that life is short. You never know when your time will be up. You owe it to yourself to be happy and live the best life you can. It’s not about having a huge house, or money or stuff – you can’t take that with you. Be happy, enjoy everyday you can, because you never know when it will be the last one.

– xoxo Victoria

“But it’s all an adventure That comes with a breathtaking view”  – Benj Pasek / Justin Paul

“Always go with your passions. Never ask yourself if it’s realistic or not.” – Deepak Chopra

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Hey Guys!

So I don’t share a lot about the products I use or the holistic/ natural treatments or practices I participate in very much. I know there are things that I could share with you that would make me sound like I’m a crazy person to most! hahahahaha But those who are close to me will tell you that I never stop talking about holistic healing. In my “nursing” classes other students and even the instructor were asking me questions about products and practices that are not considered mainstream.

I am passionate about healing holistically and naturally, from the inside out. CBD, Ozone, Organic Food …. I have years of experience with these processes and truly believe in them. I have happily been on my path of clean living for a while and trying to figure out a way to share it with you. I started this blog about six months ago but have been hesitant (I don’t know why) to start sharing what I know and personally use. The things I am going to start sharing are easy to incorporate into your busy lives and are things I actually use and that work for me. I never wanted to seem like a product hawker, I never wanted to pretend to be an expert, but after a few months of having this debate in my head I decided I would be doing a disservice to my friends and people that I know could benefit from these practices/ products if I didn’t share them. 

Today that changes. Today I am will start sharing this lifestyle that I am passionate about. I am going to start sharing and answering questions about what I use, what I do and how these things have helped me and those I love!

CBD OIL!!!  The first thing I’ll be sharing … blog coming tonight! 

As always if you have any questions or would like more information, please reach out. 

– xoxo Victoria

“Quality is remembered long after price is forgotten” -Aldo Gucci

I am not a label person, never have been, Duane was.

I follow @seersuckerandsaddles on instagram and watch her stories daily. A few weeks ago she posted about this Gucci watch. I saw it and liked it but didn’t think about it again. The next day she posted about it again and it was about 50% off … thought about it, but decided against buying it. A few days later she posted about it again. I had this horrible nagging feeling to order it, so I did. It arrived, I looked at it and put it back in the box, ready to return it. It was extravagant and not something that I normally buy. 

A few days later I still had a nagging feeling about this watch. I went back to the box, opened it up and put it on. I fell in love. It fit perfect and I loved it! The nagging feeling stopped. 

Then I remembered …

When I met Duane he wore a Gucci watch that he loved. He wore it for years but after beating it up on fires, water skiing and fishing it looked like crap. For his 40th birthday I got him a new one. He loved it. 

So for my 40th birthday this year I bought my self the same present I bought Duane. It’s weird how things come back around in new ways. I am constantly being shown Duane is still around. 

– xoxo Victoria